Rules for dating single mothers
We’ve put together some dating do’s and don’ts for single moms that can help you find Mr.Right without allowing the search to negatively impact your children.But throw the well-being and future of your children into the mix as an additional concern and the whole thing is even trickier.Because truly–for children who may struggle to feel secure or like their lives are stable after a divorce–nothing could be worse.As a child psychiatrist, I have treated a large number of children who were harmed by the poor choices their parents made while dating.I also saw parents do quite a few disturbing things while I was recently single and dating, but you don’t have to give up on dating with children; and you don’t have to be a spinster to protect your children if you are smart about it.Lauren is single mum to Dylan, 11 and reveals: “When you’ve got a kid it’s harder to meet people.For them to take that on it’s a huge responsibility. I think guys struggle with that, especially if they haven’t had kids themselves.” It got me thinking about how hard it is to step back into the dating game when you have children.
All you need to say is “I have children” or “my children are grown.” A decent person doesn’t need to know anything more than that to decide whether or not they’d like to go on a date with you.
Be patient while she adjusts and when she expresses her emotions or feelings about dating as a mother the best thing you can do is listen.
Here are a few rules that will make your relationship better and more understanding.
You don’t have time to waste on someone who isn’t a potential spouse.
If you don’t share the same faith and basic values from the start, trust us: Don’t waste precious hours that could be spent with your kids on a guy who’s not for you.